Friday, March 30, 2012

The Sibling Bond

Feels good to be back after what feels like a lifetime.I was wondering what I am gonna post about. I can as well continue with my short story. I have been waiting to continue. But as you can very well see, something else took precedence. The title is self explanatory. :) 

I wonder when will you ever grow? Do you even realize you are elder to her ? Shouted my mom out of frustration. Yes it was us fighting again over something very trivial. It always is. 
Why should I when she is the one at fault? Can't I even defend myself and make my stand clear? I yell back at my mom. 
God knows how many times this has happened over the past 18 years. Believe me, it is not that easy to be an elder when you have a younger sister. I believe its easier to tackle a younger brother. At least that is what I hear. 

So it is said that being the eldest, there are certain norms to be followed.


1) Is it a fight? Give up, because you are the elder one.
2) Is is something that you both like? C'mon let her have it, because you know you are the elder one.
3) Does she wanna play with you and your friends? C'mon take her in, as you know you are the elder one. (This used to happen when we were kids :D)


This is an endless list. Is this what I have to listen to just because I am 3 years elder to her. Seriously 3. Is that even a number that counts? I keep quizzing. Maybe I can do that if at all she behaves like a younger one. Listening to what her elder sister has to say and abiding by it. But hell no. She never will. 
Be it anything, a lame advice or even a suggestion, she says "keep it to yourself" 
Huh! Why should I even sacrifice when I don't receive an iota of respect, I keep asking my mom. She says " Someday, you will understand that you can never have a friend as close as your sister. "  Today as I pen this down, I realize how true that is. Its not about not fighting. Its about fighting like we hate each other the most and still talk like nothing happened the very next minute.Fighting or arguing doesn't strain the relationship. Not talking about the problem to the concerned person and go ranting about it to a 3rd person does. We are humans. Each one is unique in his or her own way. So it is obvious that the thought process will never be the same between 2 persons no matter how close they are. I do not go complaining about my sister. Rather I pick up a fight, we argue and eventually resolve it. So the more we fight, the more closer the fight brings us. She is definitely close in the aspect that we do not hold grudge on each other.

I know I have said things I never meant to and I know I have hurt you. I am truly sorry about that. No matter how old we grow, I will still keep fighting with you. I am not gonna say that I have written this one . So if at all you come across this, don't be lazy as always and do comment. When your sister has spent sometime to write this down, you can spend few minutes to acknowledge her words . Lets see how long it takes for you to reply :D


Dedicated to all such elder sisters out there ! :)

14 comments:

  1. Nice read.
    I have an elder brother and even I wrote somethin on sibling bond.. hope you would enjoy reading somethiin similar expressed differently. :)
    http://cheenachopra.blogspot.in/2012/02/you-know-me-how.html

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    1. Thank you Cheena :) Will definitely read :)

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  2. hey this post is sooooper :) i have a younger brother :) but our story is kinda different :) We fight a lot but always i win :P We turn evrythin topsy turvy together :P :P But siblings are the same, the bond is unexplainable :) :) nice post :)

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    1. Thank you uma! :) :) ha! How convenient? :D It never is the case here. But at the end of the day, nothing matters :) We talk like nothing ever went wrong :) Thanks again :)

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  3. Oh woww!!!! hw i wish to hv a younger/elder sis :( :( r you oly 3 yrs elder to her archu? coz i stil rem clearly wen i saw anitha as a baby fresh frm d hosp lyin down in the hall. i stil rem dat picture in my mind!!!! thos lines in blue r so true!!! nt oly sisterhood, but if any relationshp is dat way, it is a very healthy rel! be it frnshp/luv :) i fight wid my mom d same way! :P who els to fight wid!? :D

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    1. Yeah Priya, only 3 years :) You remember the first time you saw her??? :) :D That is a bit too much for a 4 yr old to remember :D yeah true. But that is a very rare case and I am very lucky to have friends who are like sisters to me :) I fight with my mom as well :D And now you have got one another person to fight with :D

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    2. haha!! yea!! i wz 4 thn but i swear i remember!!!! n yea ive got 1 mre person to fight wid :D

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    3. Child prodigy I must say!!! :D :D

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  4. heyy
    an elder sister here... & yea thnx for the dedication... :) you are true my dear, me and my sis fights to the extreme but in the very next moment v think what had happend and yea nothing had happend actually... with proud i can say that she is my best frnd in this world :) v may fight, v may tease each other, v may do evrythng dat no other do but yea v are sisters... :) still v cant think of a day without our fights :) perfect yaar...

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    1. Hi Anjali :) Nice to hear that you share the same relationship that I do with my sis :) Thank you and welcome as well :)

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  5. sister sister bonding is just so amazing! Luckily I am the younger sis of my bro and yea,he is such an adorable angel! Infact I used to behave like a witch complaining every time he did something or didn't..LOL! Those were the days! Now he's all grown up..married...those moments never come back but the memories last a lifetime!! :)

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    1. Haha Jen nice how about your bonding :) Here we both used to fight equally and yeah she used beat me up and then go complaining to my mom! how wicked :P These days only verbally we fight because it really pains if she beats me :D So I try to stay at a distance :D
      Those moments never come back but the memories last a lifetime!! :) Indeed true :)

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  6. How sweet! :) Has she come by as yet;)?

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    1. No not yet :( I guess I ll just go tell her :D

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